Sir Bamm!


A Shorter Version of the submissive's Checklist

Downloadable version: sub Checklist

This is a shorter version of the checklist, which you should fill out and provide to Me! This will provide a quick check to identifying limits, negotiating play and finding common ground. I amended the original checklist to give you a better idea of my interests.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
For Experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Mark N/A if it does not apply to you.
For Willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
"?"     means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.
NO     means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 (zero)      indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit Me to do it if I really wanted to (sometimes called a "soft limit").
1     means you don't want to do, or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.
2     means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3     means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis.
4     means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5     means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with Me, but not with casual play-partners.
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for Me to know in the column to the right.
There is intentionally some overlap between activities. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity.
Copy and paste this checklist to a document text so you can mark your answers next to each item.

  Experience Willingness Notes & Nuances
  yes/no NO or 0-5  
Anal sex      
Anal plugs      
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)      
Beating (soft)      
Being serviced (sexual)      
Being bitten      
Breath control      
Chauffeuring (driving)      
Chores (domestic service)      
Cock worship      
Corsets (wearing casually)      
Double penetration      
Examinations (physical)      
Eye contact restrictions      
Face slapping      
Fantasy abandonment      
Fantasy rape      
Fantasy gang-rape      
Fear (being scared)      
Fisting (vaginal)      
Following orders      
Forced homosexuality      
Forced heterosexuality      
Forced masturbation      
Forced nudity      
Forced servitude      
Forced sodomy      
Full head hoods      
Genital sex      
Golden showers      
Hair pulling      
Hair or head held during oral sex      
Hand jobs (giving)      
Hand jobs (receiving)      
Harems (serving w/other subs)      
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)      
Head (recv fellatio/cunnilingus)      
High heel wearing      
Housework (doing)      
Ice cubes      
Knife play      
Leather clothing      
Leather restraints      
Lectures for misbehavior      
Licking (non-sexual)      
Lingerie (wearing)      
Manacles & Irons      
Manicures (giving)      
Massage (giving)      
Modeling for erotic photos      
Mouth bits      
Nipple clamps      
Nipple play/"torture"      
Oral/anal play (rimming)      
Over-the-knee spanking      
Orgasm control      
Outdoor sex      
Persona training (in scene)      
Phone sex      
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)      
Prison scenes      
Prostitution scenes      
Punishment scene      
Pussy worship      
Riding crops      
Restrictive rules on behavior      
Scratching - getting      
Sensory deprivation      
Serving as furniture      
Serving as a maid      
Serving as waitress/waiter      
Serving orally (sexual)      
Serving other Doms      
Shaving (body hair)      
Shaving (genital hair)      
Slutty clothing      
Speech restrictions (when, what)      
Spreader bars      
Standing in corner      
Straight jackets      
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)      
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)      
Strap-on-dildos (wearing/using)      
Supplying new partners for Dom      
Swallowing semen      
Triple penetration      
Verbal humiliation      
Voyeurism (watching others)      
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)      
Video (watching others)      
Video (recordings of you)      
Wearing symbolic jewelry      
Wooden paddle (punishment)      


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